Showing posts with label preschool. Show all posts
Showing posts with label preschool. Show all posts

Saturday, November 23, 2024

Thankfulness Songs that Help Young Children Develop Empathy


To continue my study and practice of using music to help develop empathy, this year I wrote a new song about thankfulness. I wanted a simple song that shared ways to show gratitude, one not necessarily tied to Thanksgiving, but one that could be used throughout the year. Gratitude is that awareness that someone is caring for us AND acknowledging that care. It's empathy because we need to be able to understand someone else's intentions.


Luckily, there are so many opportunities to say, “Thank you,” so there are many chances to practice developing that empathy! Every time children are served food, every time children receive help with anything, we can help our little ones to give thanks. Giving your children an opportunity to remember to show gratitude before giving a gentle reminder helps them develop a habit of saying, "Thank you." Heap on the praise when they remember!


And of course having songs that celebrate thankfulness help as well! Here are the words to the two I'm sharing this week:


1. "Thank You"

Thank you for the sun

Thank you for the sky

Thank for the rain

And for the birds that fly

Thank you for the stars

That twinkle in the night

They mean the world to me


(This is another one where I can't find the composer, and another one I learned while teaching at Black Pine Forest School in Berkeley, CA)!


2. "Giving Thanks," by Margot Bevington © 2024

[chorus]

Giving Thanks, giving thanks

Giving Thanks, giving thanks

We give thanks for the world, we give thanks


We give thanks for our food, we give thanks

We give thanks for our food, we give thanks

We can show our thanks when we eat our food


[chorus]


We give thanks for our home, we give thanks

We give thanks for our home, we give thanks

We can show our thanks when keep things clean


[chorus]


We give thanks for our friends, we give thanks

We give thanks for our friends, we give thanks

We can show our thanks when we care for friends


[chorus]


We give thanks for our love, we give thanks

We give thanks for our love, we give thanks

We can show our thanks when we share our love


Here are the words in Spanish!


[chorus]

Gracias, gracias

Gracias, gracias

Gracias por el mundo, gracias


Por el comido, gracias

Por el comido, gracias

Tenemos gratitud cuando comemos

[chorus]

Por la casa, gracias
Por la casa, gracias
Tenemos gratitud cuando limpiamos

[chorus]

Por los amigos, gracias
Por los amigos, gracias
Tenemos gratitud cuando preocupamos

[chorus]

Por el amor, gracias
Por el amor, gracias
Tenemos gratitud cuando amamos

[chorus]

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Saturday, November 16, 2024

Kindness Songs that Help Young Children Practice Kindness!

After writing about developing skills for understanding kindness and empathy for the past few months, I wrote a couple of my own songs about kindness to use in my music classes. The choices I made to include movement, ASL, and taking turns allowed me to engage the students. The songs helped us practice kindness! Here's a video of the songs, and notes on how I used them below.


"Kindness Grows Like a Rainbow" by Margot Bevington ©2024

Kindness grows like a rainbow
Kindness grows in your heart
Kindness is all colors
Love is where it starts
We are kind to _____
We say "I love you"
When we're kind our rainbow
Shines so brightly too, Whoo!

First of all, using scarves is a favorite activity for my classes. In this song, the best part is tossing the scarves on "Whoo!" In addition, if you read my previous blog, you also know that the differently colored scarves are a learning opportunity as well, hence the line, "Kindness is all colors."

The other great thing about this song is that you or your children can choose what to put in the blank for the line, "We are kind to _____." In the video above, you'll see that I chose family, friends, etc. In my classes, however, we took turns putting everyone's name in. If you have a lot of kids, you can get creative on how you do that (a few at a time, take turns over multiple classes, etc).

In my classes, I got everyone's name in, but I didn't return to the "Kindness grows like a rainbow" part until the very end, which made it go faster. Taking turns like this gave everyone a chance to receive that love and kindness from the class, which was the best part! Saying "I love you" is just one kind thing to say that fits with the music. You can play around with different kind things to say for that part as well!

"Be Kind" by Margot Bevington ©2024

In a world
Where you can be
Anything
Be Kind
It's our world
That we share
It's our choice
It's our love
We play
We laugh
We learn
We love
We say
Kind words
We do
Kind things
We see
Your tears
We care
We help
In a world
Where you can be
Anything
Be Kind
It's our world
That we share
It's our choice
It's our love

This is an echo song, which turns up the listening and participation right away. In a way, it's an act of kindness to fully commit to singing together, and I remember really enjoying hearing the kids' voices in the quick back and forth. My hope for this song is that it shows kindness in actions that children are able to do- and choose to do using empathy!

Before I go today, I would be remiss if I didn't say a few words about Ella Jenkins, who passed away recently at 100 years old! If you aren't familiar with Ella's music, if you follow the link, you'll probably discover that some of the songs your music teacher used with you were on her groundbreaking children's music albums. The best thing about Ella's music was that it was designed to be singable by everyone, even from a very young age. Thank you Ella, for paving the road for children's music!

How Ella Jenkins Revolutionized Children's Music - The New York Times

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Saturday, November 9, 2024

Helping Students With "Get What You Get and Don't Throw a Fit" in Preschool Music Class


Looking at these rainbow colored movement scarves drying after a routine washing reminded me of some teachable moments I leaned into recently. This year I am working with many new preschool and toddler classrooms. In our initial work with differently colored egg shakers, bean bags, and scarves, we encountered some discord.


I hand students these materials from a bag, and it’s a “get what you get” kind of situation. Some teachers and parents may be familiar with the saying, “Get what you get, and don’t throw a fit!” I prefer saying something like, “All the colors are so beautiful!” or “All of the [materials] work the same!”


However some students had trouble with this. They had zeroed in on a particular color and felt they should receive that color. When this didn’t happen, one student complained loudly, and when she realized nothing would change, she threw her beanbag across the circle. Others also expressed outrage, but then begrudgingly settled in with the color they had. Still others decided to give it right back to me and not to participate. And, yes, a couple students had tantrums. (Not all in the same class, thankfully).


If we zoom out a bit from this scenario, we can make several connections to typical human behaviors. A big one that jumps out at me is a sense of entitlement, that expectation that if we express a desire for something, that wish is likely to be filled. I don’t enjoy seeing students have tantrums, but I know there is a reason teachers consistently enforce avoiding individual wish fulfillment in group situations like this. Students need to learn that it’s okay to have an outcome that is not their preference, and be able to accept an outcome that reflects fairness and the needs of others (not enough time or colors to give everyone their preference).


Another parallel I see is the tendency to get so emotionally invested in a personal preference as to believe that your preference is the best, and that all others are inferior. We descend very quickly into a dicey area of intolerance if we believe certain colors are better than others. That isn’t to say that we can’t have a favorite color. We can make individual choices that reflect our preference- such as clothing or artistic choices. However, we can’t impose our preference at the hindrance of others in a group situation, causing them harm or injustice.


Again, if we take a broader view of human behavior, things would seem unfair and out of balance if individuals were rewarded for throwing tantrums and expressing intolerance, unaware of the needs of others. You wanted the red egg? Okay here it is for you. (I would need to take someone else’s red egg and give it to the student throwing the tantrum). This dynamic doesn’t change whether it’s one person throwing a fit, or many. Discontent is easily felt and spread, especially if we give in to a lack of empathy.

Until age 6, a young child’s brain hasn’t developed the cerebral cortex enough to show true empathy without the support of their caregivers. (This process continues until age 25, but with less and less support required). However, by helping students practice tolerance and empathy now, we'll hopefully prepare them to continue being tolerant and empathetic in the future!


So... let’s zoom back in. (I know, I got a little metacognitive there). Here’s what I did to help my students- and what you can do! I’m hoping this is accessible for you to try as well. However, this is just one idea! I would love to hear your ideas around “Get what you get, and don’t throw a fit!” Put them in the comments below or on the corresponding posts on my socials. Check out my YouTube below to hear the songs and see the corresponding movement and signs you can use.


1. I played a game where the scarves became butterflies and visited each child. There was no complaining, and students enjoyed hearing their names in the song. (And I got a chance to practice learning their names)! Before I started, I showed students how to make a butterfly by holding the scarf in the middle to make two wings. When they got a scarf, they did this and made their butterfly “fly.”


Flittery, fluttery [student’s name except starting with a “Fl” sound]

A butterfly flew to [student’s name]


(An adaptation of the song “Willoby Walloby Woo,” by Raffi)


2. I said, “Wow, look at all the beautiful butterflies!” (It’s really an impressive sight with all the different colors). Then I sang a song called “All the Colors of the Rainbow.” 


I see red butterflies, and orange butterflies

And yellow butterflies, and green butterflies

And all of them are gifts of love add beauty to this world

All the colors of the rainbow

All the shades of light and dark

All the colors of the rainbow

How beautiful they are

I see light butterflies, and dark butterflies

Blue and purple butterflies, and pink butterflies

And all of them together blend in perfect harmony 

All the colors of the rainbow

All the shades of light and dark

All the colors of the rainbow

How beautiful they are


For a later lesson, you can sing this version with Spanish words:


Veo rojo, y naranja

Amarillo, y verde

Y todos

Los colores

Estan bonitos

Todos los colores

Todos los tonos

Todos los colores

Que bonitos colores

Veo tonos claros y oscuros

Azul y morado, y rosa

Y todos

Los colores

Cantan en armonia

Todos los colores

Todos los tonos

Todos los colores

Que bonitos colores


(After a quick Google search, I couldn’t find the composer of the song. I learned the song while working in Berkeley, CA, at Black Pine Forest School).


3. Now when a student expresses a preference for one color of the rainbow, I remind them of this song. Students are much more able to not only tolerate but celebrate the color they have. In fact, they express happiness and excitement when they are handed different colors. (Sometimes to the point of bragging- but that’s a topic for another blog)!





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Wednesday, July 8, 2020

Social Learning During Social Distancing

It has been a while- over a year- since I posted to this blog! I have no excuse except that I have been fairly busy and stressed (just like everyone else right now). I am writing just about a week after the last day of my school year- a year that of course had a surprising and challenging shift to distance learning.

As an educator, if I have learned anything this year, it's that creative problem solving can help you wade through unforeseen circumstances. However, it takes a full on effort- a constant attention to everyone involved. You have to care- a lot- and make adjustments based on feedback.

As a parent, life has not been dissimilar. I know the stress and social isolation we've been experiencing isn't particularly healthy for us, but it could be a learning opportunity. This has been a tough problem to "creative" our way around- but not impossible. Plus, getting creative about social learning opportunities for our children right now is a good way to model flexibility and resilience!

Here are some options you may have considered to offer social learning opportunities for your little ones during social distancing:

  • You and other immediate family members- your child's first teachers
  • Interactive virtual (FaceTime, Zoom, etc)- can give your child a sense of cause and effect, develop social language, and can model participation in a community
  • Non-interactive (children's media- TV, movies, books, music, etc)- allow your child to see/hear and learn about different social scenarios and develop empathy 
  • In person (socially distancing with people outside on walks, or with extended family if you make that decision)- still available- just please stay safe (wear a mask, socially distance)

With safety first and foremost, opportunities for social learning will look different now, but they are still as abundantly available! Let's take a closer look at how you can offer safe social learning opportunities for your little ones during social distancing. Here are my recommendations:

Take an Online Class There are a variety of offerings for families with young children out there- the beauty of which is you don't have to live close to the teacher, and there is flexibility around the timing. For example, check out these online offerings from children's musicians.

Stay Connected With Playgroups Online This is a way especially for parents of babies/toddlers to stay connected (and sane)! Highly recommended. If you weren't in a playgroup already, try forming one online.

Listen to the Radio This time honored media source connects us to our community because it's  interactive. Try contacting the DJ to make a request! Here are some recommendations (in alphabetical order):
Learn More About Social Justice I recommend the Zinn Education Project. It has resources appropriate for Pre-K to adult. My son (11 years old) and I are using it right now to understand the history and continued effects of systematic racism in our country. Alphabet Rockers, Teaching Tolerance, and The Mosaic Project are all also resources I have used as an educator and as a parent.


Learn About Spirituality and Meditation With many places of worship offering virtual services, now is a good time to learn about different religions without the stigma of perhaps being an outsider to that community- or being that family with the kids who are maybe not that quiet. The more positive messages about universal love and helping those in need, and even the more controversial topics, are great talking points that may tie in to what you learn about social justice. Virtual services also usually offer positivity and peaceful meditation opportunities you can model for your little one- worth a try! (Or you could try the "Calm" app- I'm on the fence about this app. Will probably write a separate article about it).

Donate to Community Helpers As strange as it may sound to recommend watching a late night television host for ideas to donate to community helpers right now, I recommend watching Jimmy Fallon. As a parent of two little girls, he knows what's up, and his YouTubes usually have links to donate. So you feel a little bit more sane by laughing a bit, and then you get to feel like you are helping your community- a win win. How does this help your little ones, you ask? They get to see you in a better mood, and you can explain how you helped the community- you will be a model of resilience and empathy- go you!

Take Walks This is a way to stay connected to one's community that doesn't require a computer, doesn't cost a thing, and is a health boost in so many ways! I recommend saying hello to strangers, sharing or going off the path to maintain social distance, and going at around twilight- it's cooler, and where we live, we can walk with the fireflies!



Bond with a Pet Now is a great time to add a pet to your family, or pay extra attention to your pet(s). Pets can give that much needed unconditional love, develop empathy in your little ones, and can be genuine friends/companions! Have your little one help you feed, walk, or play with your pet- they will love it!

Mail a Letter/Gift! This is a great way to remind those family and friends you are close with that you are there for them. My son has really enjoyed getting letters and gifts in the mail- and it's an opportunity to show gratitude/reciprocate.

Be Real/ Feel Your Feelings As someone who experienced a crisis situation during their child's early childhood years, I was coached to be real and not to hide my feelings from my little one. Our instinct may be to shelter our little ones from any feelings that aren't happy. It's actually a better idea to process the whole range of emotions whether or not you have space apart from your child. It's not easy, and it isn't always pretty, but weathering those storms is a good opportunity to model how to process those feelings and still be okay- to be resilient and forgive ourselves and others. The operative word here is that these emotional storms are temporary- never lasting/harmful to our little ones- but learning opportunities. For example it may be okay to cry in front of your little one, self-calm, and make amends, but never okay to to direct inappropriate physical anger their way. For more information on how to prevent/report domestic violence, check out the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

FaceTime or Socially Distance In Person With Close Family and Friends In addition to connecting through FaceTime, my family has chosen to meet in person for special occasions. We wear masks inside and are considerate of each other's space and health needs. (Please keep in mind the health needs of your family when making this decision).



To anyone who comes across this blog- I hope this was helpful! Feedback is welcome: margotbevington@gmail.com. Or comment below.








Monday, September 3, 2018

Learning to Read

Well, it’s back to school for me and my son tomorrow. Last week, I said I would write about creative ways to help your little one learn to read. I will keep that promise, although make an shorter post so I can get back to making sure all my ducks are in a row for tomorrow. Here are some tips on how to have a language rich environment to encourage early literacy.

Letters everywhere- Letter magnets, letters for the bathtub, letters on blocks, letters on puzzles- there are lots of ways to include letters in your child’s play area. I remember my son had a gizmo that sang a song and said the sound the the letter made. You can also use the letters when you play with your child and sing the song yourself. (The sound will be more clear that way).

Read every day- Find a time- bedtime, after school- to read with your child. Interact with your child, and talk about the book your are reading as well. Get a little silly- find books in which your child is interested. The more fun you have, the more your child will want to read.

Expose your child to media that celebrates reading- For my generation, it was Reading Rainbow. Nowadays it might be Super Why or Word World. There are plentiful choices here- do a little digging and you’ll be sure to find something you both enjoy.

Beginner readers- I highly recommend Bob Books for those little ones who are making some headway in recognizing letter sounds. There are different sets, and if you use them in order, careful to only move to the next book once your child has mastered the book they are on, your child will learn how to read.

I haven’t done this much up until now, but I’m going to go ahead and plug my own work. (This makes two weeks in a row of doing this). Here’s my new video about learning to read and the joy of reading- aptly based on my experience teaching my son to read. Hope you like it! Tune in next week for more tips on teaching early childhood skills- how about numbers? 


Sunday, July 15, 2018

Considering Preschools for Your Early Learner

As a continuation of my writing about childcare, today I'll talk options for children ages 2-6. Any preschool teacher would argue, however, that they are less childcare provider, more teacher- so I did want to make that distinction before I start. As someone who has trained as a teacher, including in early childhood, I can say that dedicated preschool teachers have studied their craft, know about early childhood development, and some are experts in the various philosophies of teaching as described below. They are typically required to take classes periodically for Continuing Education Units (CEUs), and are some of the most patient, hardworking people you'll ever meet. (So are childcare providers)!

When planning for preschool, you'll also want to consider the difference between childcare and "class time." Teachers plan learning time for children, most often during the hours of 9am-noon. Those who are dropped off early are in a "morning care" program, which is childcare. Those who stay after lunch are invited to nap. After nap time, it's usually dismissal, however, if children need to stay longer, there is often an afternoon program, again a more childcare type situation. Your child will "learn" in any situation, but a teacher usually focuses on those morning hours.

Need childcare for your preschooler during the summer? No problem! Most preschools offer daycare or "camps" that offer a similar structure as what is offered to early learners during the school year.

I also wanted to point out that some schools offer an early learning classroom for children ages 2-3, while others do not. This is the same for children ages 5-6- sometimes you'll find a Kindergarten age group within the early learning program as well.

Finally, maybe most importantly, you'll want to look at different types of preschools. From Montessori to Reggio Emilia, there is variety in what private preschools have to offer. Public preschools (yes public as in you don't have to pay for it) are also becoming more common, so make sure you check out that option as well! Below I give a description of my experience or what I have learned about each different type of preschool and a link to check it out further.

Montessori- My son attended Montessori from age 2-3. He enjoyed the freedom of movement in the classroom, and kept himself busy with the different types of "work" available. "Work" was individual, student-driven time with Montessori "materials." There was also circle time, where a focused, community, lesson was given.

Reggio Emilia- My son attended this type of school when he was 4. (We moved from California to Maryland that year). Exploration within different themes was encouraged. Lessons were planned based on student ideas and questions. I have a ton of pictures from his time at this school (they liked to document discoveries and learning).

Arts Integrated- If you are lucky to find a preschool that touts arts integration, I definitely suggest checking it out. Studying the arts though music, movement, dramatic play, and visual art is a powerful form of self discovery for any age, but at this age is particularly helpful in developing fine and gross motor skills, language development and coordination.

Waldorf- I don't know much about this type of program except that it emphasizes the arts and handicrafts. Those who find a good Waldorf school will usually share the unique ways it has helped their children.

Academic- Academic preschools are those that focus on preparing children for Kindergarten. There is often more focused, teacher-led lessons, drills, and desk work. Think of them as Kindergarten classrooms but with activities and classwork focused on pre-reading, pre-math, and general knowledge.

Play-based- Students in a play based program are offered time to play and explore, usually within different themes (very similar to Reggio Emilia). Teachers help students work out any problems or questions that arise.

Religious- Preschools that are part of churches, parochial schools, temples, or Jewish Community Centers are often a mixture of academic and play-based, but with a sprinkle of introduction to the family's faith tradition.

Outdoor- These schools focus on outdoor exploration and environmental education. They are a newer type of play-based program that looks to Mother Nature to nurture young learners.

Cooperative- Parents take turns helping out the teachers in a parent preschool co-op. If your child acts differently (and not in a good way) when they are around you, this option may not be for you. (I have tried this too). (It wasn't the best option for me and my son).

Public- Depending on where you live, there may be a public preschool available for your son or daughter. There may even be a public charter option that may take on an early learning philosophy such as Montessori.

I hope that this overview of the different types of childcare and preschools available for your 2-6 year old was helpful! The key to finding the preschool that's right for your child is much the same as finding childcare for your baby- find what seems most comfortable for you and your child. There are lots of options to consider, but you'll know when you find what will work for you and your family. Next week I'll be writing about finding opportunities for your young one to learn different languages- a practice that can enhance their overall language development. Stay tuned!